I just read a great post from a blog friend over at, Like A Warm Cup of Coffee, and thought I would share it with you.
“Isn’t it strange that there is training in almost every job situation EXCEPT motherhood! And it is the most important job a woman can ever have.” -Cherie
My Christian sisters, I have a heart plea on behalf of you, myself, and our daughters.
Especially our daughters.
Most of us have been raised with the notion that we can have it all – career, family, and independence.
I don’t think we can.
Before I get to my plea, I want to share the common threads that have been weaved into our generation…
“I was raised with the mindset that I could have a career and a family.”
“My parents never discussed my future…”
“I was raised thinking that women who stayed at home were wasting their time and their lives.”
“I kind of just fell into being a sahm.”
“My family is very big on education.”
“My mom always said we didn’t need a man.”
“My mom was a SAHM, but I don’t think I was raised with either mindset. It was more of “Do what you think is best.”
“I was raised with the mentality that I could stay home and have a family, only if I achieved a 4 year degree, first.”
“Never depend on a man to take care of you. Get your own job so you can have your own money.”
“My parents prepared me to do whatever God called me to do.”
“My mother was a stay at home southern belle who never planted any seeds for me to consider.”
“I think I was raised to do whatever my heart felt lead to do.”
“My mom worked much of the time while I was growing up. I figured I’d be a working mom, too…”
Now look at us! I would say that this post has sparked a great unmasking of what we are struggling with. While we are not with excuse, we can see that damage has been done. Now, it must be said that many things go into how and/or why were taught the way we were…wounds, confusion, misunderstandings, circumstances, sin etc., and thank God grace covers. But friends, WE have a choice to make, now, today on how we want to raise our daughters. Do we want to raise them up in confusion or with conviction and truth?
It is my plea that you and I would choose to go against the current culture and, with conviction, teach and train our daughters how to love their husbands, love their children, and be workers at home…so that the word of God will not be dishonored. Will it be a struggle? Yes, because we have to re-train ourselves, but thank God there are godly women out there to help us and walk beside us! (Sally, Robin, June are some of my favorites in the blogosphere).
I don’t know about you, but I want to give my daughters something better…something firm to stand on. I want them to be thoroughly prepared to what normally happens to women -getting married and having children. I wish so desperately that I would have been trained in these things. With this opportunity that you and I possess, this fresh start and new beginning, we can usher in a beautiful change that will impact generations. It doesn’t mean that everything will be rosy (we still have the curse to contend with), but they will be far ahead of the game.
“…so that they [older women] may encourage [or train] the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored [blasphemed or discredited].” Titus 2:3-5
I know that some of you want to be home and can’t for various reasons – my heart goes out to you and I stand with you in praying that the Lord will bring you back home. I believe He is faithful to what He calls us to.
I encourage you to visit this website often, for it will fill you with good and lovely things to think upon as you seek to build up the gigantic impact of your home.
In Over Our Heads
“Feminism is winning the ideological battle for our civilization, and Christians are among its casualties.” Phil Lancaster
Hmmmmm... Being a stay at home mom has been the most challenging job I've ever had, and the most rewarding. I will be forever grateful for the opportunity my Heavenly Father, and my husband have given me, to be the mom I was called to be to our children. Mistakes and all. My prayer is that our 3 sons, our daughter, and their future spouses, will see the true value in being a stay at home mom. The time I've had with our children is priceless to me. I wouldn't have changed it for any amount of money, beautiful car, or house. Our children are who they are because of Gods calling on my life to be home with them, and raise them, love and nurture them, and teach them about His plan and purpose for their lives. I am one grateful mom.
Hugs from Maine