9 Bartlett

FAMILY PHOTO SHOOT !!!

2010-11-14T13:54:00.001-08:00

Yesterday was an unusually beautiful weather day her in Maine...

It was a wonderful day...

I had the privilege of taking family photos for my beautiful niece and her family...

Yes, there was a time when I use to babysit this now beautiful woman ...

who is now a mother herself of two of the most precious children I know...

The love she has for her husband Shawn, and he for her is so obvious...

It kind of spills over onto Payton and Ezra...

To be able to edit these photos... Well, just let me say, its the most joyful fun I've had in a long time.

Blue Eyes could hear me screaming all afternoon whenever I would finish a picture.

Yesterday was an unusually beautiful weather day her in Maine... and I had the best time with these four.

Hugs from Maine

ITS FALL IN MAINE

2010-11-12T15:57:00.001-08:00

I am realizing once again how little I have been blogging lately... very little.

Recently I went for the morning with two of my very good friends to take pictures...

We just drove, stopped wherever we thought was a good spot, and took pictures...

I had the best time...

and took some awesome pictures...

and I know that I need to do both...

more often...

spend time with my friends...

and take pictures...

because both...

I love dearly...

Hugs from Maine

STAY AT HOME MOMS. YEAH, THATS US!

2010-10-14T07:34:00.000-07:00

Hugs from Maine

LESSON LEARNED... NOT REALLY.

2010-09-29T14:56:00.000-07:00

Sometimes, I wonder. Do I ever really learn what God is trying to show me. Or do I keep going round and round over the same mistakes I've made before, and if I do, WHY?

I think I realized, (think I have, in the last 5 minutes), the reason why I repeat the same mistake (I'm thinking of one in particular), is because I have convinced myself that my input, knowledge, wisdom, (all bs really), is going to make a difference.
And yeah, it does. But not for the good. My input is rarely needed, often rejected and rightfully so.

Blue Eyes and I have raised wonderful, caring, thoughtful, considerate, polite people. They are hard working, love each other, and God. They all know Jesus and for this, I am eternally grateful. At a very young age, their sweet little hearts were understanding of the love of Jesus, his sacrifice for them.

So why do I butt in with all I think, wish for, and feel I can control? My conclusion, stupidity. Motherly stupidity. Our children hear from God. I know this. I've seen this. I need to learn to trust this.

Trust Him.

Trust Him.

Trust Him.

My mothers heart is so very proud of who our peeps are turning out to be. The time I have had with them in their growing up years when I was blessed with being able to stay home with them, love on them, teach them, nurture them...

Now, I must, must, must, let go some and trust God to do what I know He will faithfully do with our, I mean His peeps.

Because after all, they do belong to Him. I am only their mum. A gift I must remember not to take and run with.

Its all so very good, and my mothers heart is more grateful then I could possibly express.

Hugs from Maine

THINGS I LOVE ABOUT THIS LABOR DAY

2010-09-06T12:58:00.001-07:00

Just a few things I love about this Labor Day...

Eating chocolate pudding made earlier by Blue Eyes.

Spending a quiet afternoon with Blue Eyes.

Seeing the familiar pair of hiking boots by the door, knowing Blue Eyes is home even though its Monday.

Relaxing out on the front porch, hearing someone inside, knowing its not one of the peeps, its Blue Eyes.

Having the house all to ourselves... no peeps around, just me and Blue Eyes.

Yeah... I like this day.

Hugs from Maine

2010-09-06T12:29:00.000-07:00

Hugs from Maine

LOOK WHAT I FOUND...

2010-09-03T05:29:00.000-07:00

It's a lazy morning here this Friday. The weather has been record breaking hot, and so does not feel like September but does feel like the middle of August.

I don't know if its the thought of fall. The date on the calender saying it is going towards fall. God speaking to my heart...

But, I'm thinking its time for some changes. I don't care for change. You all know that. But sometimes change is good, fun, and a welcome necessity. I'm thinking this is one of those times.

I found the above picture just a few minutes ago on an older post from way back in March of 2009. This was taken the morning our oldest son left for boot camp, which was also his 24th birthday... Now THAT was a huge change.

My peeps... Boy do I love those 4. They have grown up faster then my mothers heart can keep up, and they just won't stop. Life. It goes on even when you would like it to just take a breather.

Its all good, and I am so very grateful.

Hugs from Maine

IT MIGHT SAY SEPTEMBER 1st , BUT IT FEELS LIKE AUGUST !

2010-09-01T14:47:00.000-07:00

Pictures I took today in our neighborhood.

Hugs from Maine

LAST DAYS OF SUMMER...

2010-08-28T17:10:00.000-07:00

I sit here on my porch realizing once again summer is coming to an end... This is the second summer we have been on Bartlett. It's like a slice of Mayberry. When we first saw this house and were in the process of renting it, I knew right off my favorite "room" would be the front porch. I was right.

This front porch faces the street, and has been a welcome spot for many to sit. We've had good friends call and say could they come sit a bit and chat... My Florida sister when she was here this summer, would stop by while doing her errands in town and sit with willing ears, to listen to her little sister carry on about life, children, and everything in between.

Our peeps have gathered here with their many, many, friends, and laughed the afternoons away...

I have sat out here countless hours each night enjoying the quiet of the street. Chirping of the crickets, glow from the one street light next door.
My peeps have joined me by themselves at different times, when their minds were cluttered and needed sorting, and I have listened.
Even a friend or two of theirs, have asked as late as 10:30 at night with heavy hearts, if they could come by to sit and unload emotions that they have been struggling with for months. How could my mothers heart say anything but, "of course"...

I have sat many, many, mornings hot coffee in hand, tears streaming down my face, just me and Jesus. I pour out my heart to Him, He listens, wipes away my tears, and once again sets me straight. My neighbors walk by with their dogs, and think Im nuts. Oh well.
Blue Eyes and I held our Sweet Baby Girl one whole evening while she cried from the very bottom of her toes, for what seemed like an eternity for our hearts, over a love she was being asked to let go of.

And our oldest son Ben, has hugged on and gotten hugs from, those who love him deeply hoping that all of our love will go with him, to the places in Afghanistan, where he can't talk about.

And I have been blessed to sit on the glider, beside his new bride, and get to know just who she is, how much she loves our son, and to realize how blessed we are to have her in our family.

My most grateful time was not more then a half hour one spring morning when my first born came out and sat beside his mum. We said nothing for a few. We didn't need too. He knew what I was thinking, how my mothers heart was heavy for his safety. How I wished he wasn't going off to war. We sat on this porch, and our first born son, in the brave, strong way that he is, reassured his mum, "I'll be alright Mom. I'll be fine. "

I knew when I saw it for the very first time... This porch was going to be my favorite "room" in our house. And it certainly has been.

Its all good, and I am so very grateful.

Hugs from Maine

IS SUMMER REALLY OVER...

2010-08-27T17:29:00.001-07:00

It always amazes me at how things change but somehow stay the same. I think its good to some degree. I've never been one to embrace change. Actually, I've had to work on accepting it, dealing with it, and looking forward to it.
These two have been friends since they were 7ish. Although they don't see each other as much as they use too, they remain connected.

These two on the right, have been friends for a very short time but feel as if they have been friends for their whole lives...

Katelyn and I have had a very emotional summer... lots of tears, loud voices, (screaming), door slamming, foot stomping, and many, many, talks. Sometimes I think she really has felt like this,
(thats her by the way )

But even though many things have changed over the summer for my Sweet Baby Girl, one thing always remains same...

I am her mum, she is my baby girl and the love we have for each other is a strong bond that can not be broken and I am so very grateful for that.

And that no matter what her future holds...

who she chooses to spend her time with, give her heart too...

I know God has her in the palm of His hands, and we have her in our hearts...

She will be loved, protected, and taken care of. What more could this mum ask for!

Its all good, and I am so very grateful.

Hugs from Maine

WOW, HAS IT REALLY BEEN THIS LONG!!!

2010-08-15T20:58:00.000-07:00

One of my daughters sweet friends, Heather said to me today, " Mrs. Gurney, you haven't put anything on your blog for a long time!" Well I didn't know she even read my blog. Nice...
I thought I would check out how long I have actually been since I had written, and guess what? Its been too long. So much has happened over these past couple of months. I'll spare you the boring details, and sum up as best as I can. Here goes...

Youth Camping trip at Mt. Blue State Park in Maine

Some one was tired at the end of it all...

Grace looking for items for her team.

This man was actually on his cell at the end of the dock. Only place he could get reception I guess.

Katelyn enjoying some free time at the Youth Camping Trip with her best friend Tim.

Teenagers... enough said. Oh, there's Heather.

On the trip home, Tim and Katelyn were asleep in less then 10 minutes.

The beach area was amazing

Camden, Court, Katelyn and Tim on there own little "camping" overnight.
Totally supervised of course. They are such good kids.

And my favorite picture of the summer thus far... It says so much.

Its all good, and I am so very, very, grateful... Thanks Heather.

Hugs from Maine

ROAD TRIP WEDNESDAY!

2010-06-17T20:15:00.000-07:00

Yesterday was Wednesday where you are and where we are... It was also a great start to our summer!!! A much needed "away" day for Katelyn and me and a couple of her friends...

I suggested on Tuesday that we go to the ocean.

The girls were up for that.

The weather wasn't hot and uncomfortable, just breezy and overcast.

We hung out at the water for a bit and relaxed. Then girls being girls, we headed to the Mall.

It was a great day to get away and just be. Katelyn and I both needed some down time.
We decided that Wednesday is officially Road Trip Day for the summer! I don't know where we will be going... it doesn't really matter.

Want to join us!? Its all good, and I am so very grateful.

Hugs from Maine

FRIENDS, FAMILY, & GOD... AND NOT IN THAT ORDER

2010-06-13T21:02:00.001-07:00

What a week its been... To say I'm tired, emotionally, physically, and mentally really doesn't cover it. All I want to do is cry. I've been pushed to a limit that I've been pushed to before. I've had to make decisions that were difficult, but necessary. I've had to listen to what my gut was saying to me, family and friends were confirming, and know that it was right. I've been called names that I can hardly repeat. Never easy.

And in all of that, God was faithful. Faithful to remind me of right and wrong. Faithful to use people who love us and our peeps, to reassure me that even though it can get so hard and nasty, they are here. Always here... Helping to clear our minds when they can be filled with confusion.
Here with an ear to listen, and a heart that understands. Reminding me to not be fearful, stay strong and know that it will work its way out. It always does.

When a mother fears her childs safety, whether one is going to war, or another is in relationship that needs to end, she turns into a bear. She just wants to protect her child. It's not something she thinks about. Its something that comes instinctively. I've had to be a bear this week. A couple of times it hasn't been very pretty. And I wish I would have thought before I let my emotions take over. But, I am human, and make mistakes. I am learning that too. And quite frankly, I'm exhausted. Now I know why bears hibernate all winter.

I am grateful for the many friends and family, willing and always ready, to help us through. It has made me strong, so I can do what needs to be done. Pray for, listen too, and hold my peeps...

But seriously... wheres the cave?

Hugs from Maine

GOD BLESS OUR TROOPS

2010-05-31T07:09:00.000-07:00

Our son, Benjamin Stephen Gurney

Hugs from Maine

THIS, SPEAKS FOR ITSELF...

2010-05-30T06:17:00.000-07:00

Hugs from Maine

AND OUR FIRST BORN SON IS MARRIED !

2010-05-28T11:28:00.000-07:00

Yesterday, our son Benjamin was married to the sweetest young woman, Kate. Perfect name huh...
We were able to meet and get to know her last week. What a blessing to see your son in love, and someone loving him just as much. Blessing from Him

Hugs from Maine

BENJAMIN IS HOME UNTIL MONDAY, AND KATIE WENT TO THE PROM !

2010-05-19T15:16:00.001-07:00

On Saturday night, Katie, Justin and their friends went to the prom.These are the boys waiting at the top of the driveway for the girls to arrive, and here they come...

I took tons of pictures to say the least...

And I stayed up until 4 am editing them. I'm addicted to editing.

Katelyns dress was lovely, and so her. Out of all the gazillion dresses she had looked at, and showed Justin, this was his favorite. She surprised him with it !

They all had a wonderfully, fun time and got home a bit past midnight.

The very next day, Benjamin came home for a weeks visit before going off to Afghanistan. He is here with his fiance, and I just love her. Her name is Katie too !

Holding onto every minute with all of my peeps at home. I haven't slept this well for a long time.
Its all good, and I am so very grateful.

Hugs from Maine

2010-05-08T07:23:00.000-07:00

WATERVILLE -- A Waterville Senior High School graduate died Thursday while serving in Afghanistan's Wardak province.

Spc. Wade A. Slack, 21, was with the Army's 707th Ordnance Battalion, of Fort Lewis, Wash., and specialized in defusing explosives, according to Gov. John Baldacci in a news release.

Slack attended Waterville Senior High from 2003 to 2007. He is the son of Alan and Rose Slack of Waterville and Mary Slack of Waterville.

Slack was killed soon after his squad had completed the disposal of an improvised explosive device and was waiting to be airlifted back to base, according to his father, Alan Slack. A shell exploded -- whether fired from a mortar or rocket wasn't immediately clear -- and shell fragments hit Slack, his father said Friday.

Alan Slack, a veterinarian at the New England Animal Hospital in Waterville, said Friday that his son "had been oriented for military service since 14" and that Wade enlisted while a senior in high school for specialized training that required "intelligence and a top-secret security background check."

"It's not something every person can qualify for," Alan Slack said. "He had been in Afghanistan the last 10 months. I saw him at Christmas, talked with him last weekend. He was very happy. I sent him a postcard every day."

Wade, his father said, "was always bright and cheerful" and "always trying to keep others' spirits up.

"He was always looking for the silver lining in any cloud," Alan Slack said.

Baldacci on Friday ordered flags lowered to half-staff on the day of Slack's funeral, the date of which had not been set.

Alan Slack said he and other immediate family members would be leaving early today to attend a ceremony at Dover Air Force Base in Delaware in the evening.

Wade Slack had been stationed at Fort Lewis. Last year he was promoted to specialist with a specialty in explosive ordnance disposal. Slack completed his basic training at Fort Leonard Wood, Mo., and his advanced individual training at Redstone Arsenal, Ala. and Eglin Air Force Base, Fla.

Robert Fletcher of Waterville, a longtime family friend, said Friday he was amazed at how quickly news of Slack's death had spread as friends learned the news through Facebook, text messages and phone calls. The result, he said, is that everybody was quickly able to start consoling each other.

"People got together really quickly," Fletcher said. "He was loved by many and liked by everyone."

Carole Dodge, assistant principal at the high school, recalled Slack as an honor student who was passionate and caring, who knew by high school that he wanted to serve in the military. Dodge said she had Slack as a student when she taught music at the junior high school.

"He died doing exactly what he wanted to do," Dodge said. "He was a great young man. He was focused and knew what he wanted in life."

At school, "he was a very nice person to everybody," she said, "just somebody you want to be around."

At The Last Unicorn -- where Slack worked on and off as a cook from 2005 to 2007 -- employees on Friday were hugging and comforting each other.

Michelle Cyr, owner of The Last Unicorn, said Slack's brothers and sisters also have worked at the restaurant -- and some still do. Slack, she said, was a "fine young man" who was an example to his siblings.

"He was the sweetest, kindest -- and brave," Cyr said. "It's so tragic. Anybody who knew him, they loved him."

As a specialist who disarmed explosives, "he saved so many lives," Cyr said.

Jason Ladd, a dishwasher at the restaurant, said he and Slack had been friends since Slack was 10. Ladd, who is seven years older, said he'll remember Slack as supportive friend who gave good advice and enjoyed video games, movies and shooting.

"I could talk with him any time. He always had an ear," Ladd said. "He was never judgmental -- just really wise beyond his years in a lot of respects."

Every time Slack came home on leave while in the Army, he would take time to visit as many friends and family members as possible, Ladd said.

"His family was the world to him," Ladd said.

According to Slack's MySpace page, which prominently features a background image of Batman from the movie "The Dark Knight," he liked "a lot of stuff," but "mostly my family, which includes my friends ... because if (you're) in the same business that I am, then you would understand that your friends are family."

A note posted Dec. 23, 2008, on his MySpace page said Slack was "happy to be home again," and another says Slack would like to meet "as many people as possible." Another note says "(Lest) we forget our sacrifices" above a bird's eye image of soldiers forming words: "9-11 -- We Remember."

In a statement, Baldacci said Friday that he had spoken with Slack's parents.

"We can never take for granted the service of our men and women in uniform," Baldacci said. "They are the best among us and sacrifice for their country and their communities. Our prayers go out to Spc. Slack's family and friends.

"He loved his family and he loved his country," Baldacci added. "He was a dedicated soldier who served his country with honor. All of Maine mourns his passing."

U.S. Rep. Mike Michaud, D-2nd District, said in a statement that Maine "has a long tradition of coming together during a crisis, and I know the entire Waterville community and all Mainers will join me in assisting Wade's family with whatever they need during this difficult time."

U.S. Sen. Olympia Snowe, R-Maine, said in a statement that Wade "tragically gave his life defending our nation with limitless courage" and that "we owe him a debt of immeasurable gratitude that we can never repay, and must never forget."

Scott Monroe -- 861-9253 By Scott Monroe smonroe@mainetoday.com
Staff Writer

smonroe@centralmaine.com

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Back in December when Wade was home visiting his family and friends, I had the gift of meeting him. He walked through the door of a restaurant he had grown up working in years before. Two things caught my attention. First, he had on a uniform. Second, he looked like his younger brothers. Both boys are friends with our son Zack. I introduced myself, shook his hand. He shared that he indeed was Andrew and Johns older brother, and was home for a short visit before returning to Afghanistan. I told him our oldest son was currently in Germany but would soon be heading to Afghanistan himself. Sweet Wade, having never met me before that very moment, could see in my mothers eyes my concern for my son and all he would be soon facing. He knew. Wade knew. He knew first hand what Benjamin would soon be living on a daily, 24/7 basis, because he himself had just come from it, and would soon be going back too.

And he also knew my mothers heart. Even though he had just met me only moments before, he reached out his hand placed it on my arm and said, "He'll be fine. "

I can't begin to explain the comfort that I felt in my heart at that moment. The gratefulness that young soldier gave this mom.

Thank you Wade. Spc. Slack. Thank you for who you were to your family, friends, and to your country. Your life was one of love, compassion, giving, caring, hard working, sacrifice...

Words will never be enough to express how grateful I feel to have met and known you.

Hugs from Maine

FRIDAY POST

2010-04-23T04:12:00.000-07:00

You know, its been awhile since I've posted on this blog. My blog. My out there for the whole world to read as I vomit my feelings, life, and such, blog. I so forget people actually read this.

So much as been going on here. Our house has been full time and time again with Katie and her friends. Laughing, talking, eating... I love being in the kitchen making cupcakes, hearing my daughter laughing with the people she loves coming from the other room. It's who she is. It fills my heart.

She is growing up faster then I could have ever imagined. But, there are still times when she is in need of her moms gentle, encouraging, loving words. And I so cherish those moments. I wrap them up carefully in my mothers heart, and save them for a rainy day.

I am so proud of who she is. Not what she has or can do... but the "who" of Katelyn.
Insightful, kind, loving, helpful... She is a good friend to those who call her friend. What a gift that girl is.

Its all good, and I am grateful.

Hugs from Maine

2010-04-17T17:49:00.000-07:00

She's growing up too fast...

hugs from Maine

IRIS APFEL & OTHERS

2010-03-30T16:57:00.000-07:00

"Respect your elders
and let these ladies and gents
teach you a thing or two
about living life to the fullest"

The older I get,

the more I understand.

I am definitely,

on my way...

Hugs from Maine

TALKED TO BEN TODAY...

2010-03-28T21:42:00.000-07:00

Its so strange being able to hear someones voice like their sitting right beside you, knowing their thousands of miles away... Today Blue Eyes and I talked to Ben. He is as you know, stationed in Germany and will be home on leave, for two weeks, at the end of May.

Ben has called home a couple of times this week. I have missed each call. His siblings did get to talk to their big brother. Katelyn said, "mom, he was even nice to me." She was thrilled. There is a ten year difference between our oldest and youngest. Space that can sometimes be difficult to fill. Their worlds are so very different. But they do. They do connect.

So after the disappointment of missing calls from Ben earlier in the week, with just Blue Eyes home with me, I called him. In Germany. 4pm. here. 10pm there.

Ben has been a night person for a number of years so I felt safe. The first thing he said was, "mom, do you know how much this is going to cost?" When you need to hear your kids voice, cost doesn't come to mind. Their voice does.

At the end of our conversation, when my heart was full of comfort from hearing our first Born's voice, I called to Blue Eyes to pick up, Ben was on the phone.
I sometimes will overhear what Ben and his dad are talking about. Today was one of those days.

I've known that their conversations are sometimes in a code of sorts. A father, son code. One that is meant to protect me. My heart. My thoughts. My concerns.
When Blue Eyes looked over at me and saw tears streaming down my face, he realized I had heard more than either father or son wanted me to hear. Where Ben will be, and the dangers that are going along with it, when he is in Afghanistan.

As a mom who knows and trust God with her peeps, I find my self still crying. And I struggle with that. I struggle with wondering if I really don't trust God as much as I think I do. Claim I do. The message at church yesterday and last week were about remembering the things God has done in our lives. All of the times He has been there. Gotten us through. Blessed us beyond measure... And He has. In our family. Gotten us through really difficult times. Blessed us beyond measure.

So, why? Why do tears come to my eyes, and fall down my face when I know, God is with our first born. Always with him. No matter where he goes, what he faces, God is there. Beside him. With him.

I'm learning as I go. I'm learning how to be a mother of a son, who is sacrificing all for his country. And I am remembering that Gods plan and purpose for Benjamins life can be trusted. Even though the tears come, and I made Ben promise me to let me hug on him as long as I need when he gets here, and I heard the smile in his voice when he said, "sure mom". God can be trusted. With our lives. With our childrens lives. He is trust worthy.

Tears will come. Tears will fall on the shoulders of the ones I love, and love me. But through each tear, I will choose to trust. I will choose to trust The One who is trustworthy. I will trust Him with our peeps. With their lives, however long or short that might be.

And I will trust and remember that He, is more than enough. Because... He Is.

Its all good. And I am so very grateful.

Hugs from Maine

SOME THINGS ARE JUST YOU

2010-03-13T00:23:00.000-08:00

This is a wedding "gown" and has my name all over it... If I were to ever be so blessed to marry Blue Eyes again.

You can see her things here,

BONZIE

Hugs from Maine

25 YEARS AGO TODAY ...

2010-03-10T04:38:00.000-08:00

25 years ago today, I was 20, almost a year married, and so very young...
I was also giving birth for the very first time to this young soldier...

Last year on this day, (His 24th birthday), he went off to boot camp. I couldn't bring him, his Dad did. It was a very heavy heart day for me. I had spent over 20 years mothering my first born son. Benjamin. And now, he was entering a world that was beyond my reach of being his mom. I couldn't be there for him if he needed. Couldn't help him feel better if he was sick. Couldn't comfort and encourage him when he was struggling. But in all of that. In all a mother goes through when she is walking in the very last steps of releasing her child from childhood, God was faithful. He was there.

He reminded me of the reality that I already knew. Ben belongs to Him. Always has, always will. Ben has been a sweet gift from God that I never could have imagined in my wildest dreams of being blessed with. But God did. He knew before the beginning of time that Benjamin would be our first born son. Sweet, kind hearted, gentle, smart, (boy is that guy smart), curious, helpful, hard working, strong ... Benjamin is the best oldest brother to his siblings that anyone could ask or hope for. I've always told our peeps that God didn't just randomly place them in their birth order without purpose. They are where they are, for His purpose. His plan. And also for our family. Each of our children have always been taught the precious gift of where they are to the other sibling, in the birth order. Some of them have more responsibility then the others. God of course, knew what He was doing, putting Ben at the beginning.

25 years ago today, when I held my precious first born son, when I looked into his beautiful little blue eyes, (just like his dads), I NEVER imagined we would be raising a soldier. But God did. He knew.

He knew Ben would be a Lego building, gentle spirited, kind hearted, intelligent, helpful, boy, who took care of his siblings, and sometimes mom when dad was at work. He would be strong, and reliable. Always reliable.

He would love and know Jesus, and grow, into a soldier. A soldier in the United States Army. A soldier like those who have gone before him, and those he serves our country with now, giving all. All. Taking care of his family, and yours. Taking care of our country.

I didn't know. I didn't know. But God did. He knew that today, 25 years later, my mothers heart would be so heavy for my first born son. My eyes would be crying all day. And my spirit would be so very, very, proud. Proud beyond words.

God also knew that He would comfort my heart by reminding me that He is ALWAYS with Ben. Our son. Blue Eyes, Mine, and Gods. He will never leave Ben or forsake him. He will and is with him at every point in this journey Ben takes. No matter where it takes him. Talking to him. Helping him. Always there with him.

So although today is a heavy heart day for this mom, God is so good. He will comfort me with my strong, loving Blue Eyes. Who knows what I'm feeling without my speaking a word. He will comfort me with Mattie, Zack and Kate. They will hug on me over and over, let me cry on their shoulders, and tell me, " He'll be alright mom. Really. " They carry my heavy heart with them today. How blessed am I !!!

And God is with Ben. Always with Ben.

Maybe Ben is going to share Jesus with just one person. One person is worth it. Ben would agree, I'm sure.

Its all good, and I am so very, very, grateful.

Hugs from Maine

IF I HAD A CRAFT ROOM...

2010-03-07T16:00:00.000-08:00

If I had a craft room, I think it would look something like this.

Pink walls and all!

Hugs from Maine

19 DAYS UNTIL SPRING !!!

2010-03-01T06:42:00.001-08:00

Friends on Face Book have reminded me that we have just 19 days until spring! (photos from last year.)

This tells me a few things. I need to find my sheets to hang for the porch.

A new American Flag for the front post.

My white pillows, blanket, and spring flowers.

Last year, I spent many mornings sipping hot coffee here, waking up with the sound of chirping birds. Evenings with my peeps listening to their days events, things they were working through, thoughts and plans.

We read good books, got to know Katies boyfriend Justin, Matties sweet girlfriend Elizabeth. Friends and neighbors stopped by and chatted. We just spent time together.

I am so looking forward to more of that. All are welcome !

Hugs from Maine

18 Years Ago...

2010-02-28T20:48:00.000-08:00

18 years ago, about this time, I stood, 3 months pregnant with our 3rd son, holding hands with my 6 siblings, around our mothers bed. In the hospital. As she slipped away. We prayed. Her 3 month battle with cancer was over, and we, her 7 children were sad and relieved.

It's hard to see someone you love suffer. Be in pain. Lose their spirit as they lose weight, and themselves, each day.

You might think I'm sad tonight. I'm not. I haven't had my mom for 18 years. And through the loss of her, when it hurt so badly that I thought I couldn't breathe... God had a way to comfort my heart. He, was able to comfort my heart. Each day that went by, each month that passed, every year that added on to the one before... God would comfort my heart.

A daughter never stops missing her mum. I haven't. I can't. She was my mum. I still remember her laugh. I hear her voice. I smell her hair. I feel her hand next mine as we would till the earth around the stone, at the cemetery, every year to plant flowers for Memorial Day.

She's been gone 18 years. 18 years today. But I see her smile on my daughters 14 year old face. Katelyn has my mums mouth. My mum was private, and kept most things to herself. Katelyn, does the same.

There are days in the years my mum has been gone, that I miss her more then most. When my feelings are hurt. When Ben left for the Army. When Matthew ran away from home and was gone for months. When Blue Eyes and I had rough times in our marriage. When my Sweet Baby Girl, (Katelyn Mary, named after my mum), went to her first dance, on her first date. When our oldest brother died, two years ago, Her first born.
When I'm struggling with life and trying to figure out which way to go.

Those are the times I miss my mum. Really miss my mum.

But I have Katelyn, my sisters, my brothers, and memories. I am blessed to see my mum in Katelyns smile, my sisters gentle hands, the way I love and care for my family.

And the assurance that one day, I will be with my mum again.

God has a way of comforting a grieving heart.

Its all good, and I am grateful.

Hugs from Maine

THIS IS ADORABLE, AND SO TRUE

2010-02-21T18:28:00.000-08:00

The first is my favorite... I hope you all have at least one of these.

Hugs from Maine

SUNDAY AFTERNOONS ARE MADE FOR NAPS !!!

2010-02-21T10:39:00.000-08:00

My choice...

It's Sunday... go take a nap.

Hugs from Maine

THE LONG AND SHORT OF IT.

2010-02-20T17:17:00.000-08:00

whiten my teeth.
get a short hair cut
go to a rumba class
eat more fruit
hug my first born
spend a whole day going to the movies
drive a volvo xc
walk my dog everyday
open a shop
drive around town in the summer months, bringing free books to kids in low income neighborhoods with Kate. And maybe even a cooler full of Popsicles
try a different flavored ice cream everyday at Giffords until I've tried them all.
travel around the country just me and Kate.
have a huge block party with lots of food, music, dancing and the street blocked off at each end.
live in an apartment
swim naked more.
lose weight. :)
strengthen my body.
read more.
go for a long walk on an empty beach with Kate.
kiss my husband until my lips fall off.
hear all four of my peeps and their loves talking and laughing together from the other room.
talk too and sit long enough to hear from God everyday.
tell each of my sibling how very much I love them.

Just a list of random things I need to a do ...

Hugs from Maine

ITS THAT SIMPLE... REALLY.

2010-02-20T09:30:00.000-08:00

Hugs from Maine

WHAT A BLESSED BIRTHDAY!

2010-02-12T16:25:00.000-08:00

45 years ago today, I'm pretty sure I was wrapped tightly in a blanket, being fed by a nurse from a glass bottle, wearing cloth diapers, in the hospital nursery with a bunch of other crying newborns. I was the last of my parents 7 children. They were undoubtedly saying a big PHEW WWW... no more! They always said the last two were a surprise. SERIOUSLY!?

Today, 45 years later, was much different. Let me give you the run down of this wonderful day.

Lunch yesterday with 4 great friends at my favorite local restaurant. Sweet gifts, desert passed around the table, circle style. Smiles and laughter, smiles and laughter.

Today, oodles, and oodles, of birthday wishes from family and friends on yes, you guessed it, Face Book. Love it!!!

A phone call from our first born who is still in Germany, wishing his mom a great day. Really love this!

The sweetest letter from one of my peeps (I've been sworn not to give out any more info from said peep ), that blessed my heart beyond words. I will cherish this till the day I go to see Jesus. And then ask Him if He minds if I take it with me. (He just might say yes. He's good like that.)

Oh yeah, and did I mention, one of my brothers called me at 6 am to make sure he was the very first person to wish me a Happy Birthday!!! It was great actually! It reminded me of how close we really still, and always are, even if we get busy with life. He's always got my back. Big brothers are like that ya know. Especially mine.

My Florida sister called and Sewing Sister came by with her hubs to bring me presents from both. Sewing sister even made chocolate covered strawberries! I love those two ! Wow, my siblings rock huh!

A close friend took me to lunch today, (just the two of us. Yes thats two birthday lunches in two days), and then shopping for the most adorable purse this girl has ever had!!! And sunglasses to boot!!!

Then Sweet Baby Girl and I went to the movies to see Valentines Day. Just her and I. All close and mother/daughter like.

Yesterday I got to spend the afternoon with Stella. My mothers close friend. Someone I grew up with. Stella was my moms good friend. I saw her all the time. She knows me, and my mom well. Spending anytime with her is one of my biggest blessings. She isn't my mom, but she's as close as it gets.

Tomorrow, a good friend from 5th grade is taking me out to dinner. We will talk, eat, laugh... laugh some more. Um, yup. I'm a loved girl. So blessed and grateful.

Sweet Baby Girl is lying on the kitchen floor, dog by her side, pillows under her head, ipod in hand, earphones in her ear. Listening to music. Texting, facebooking... I really don't know. Complaining that she should be with her friends on a Friday night. Not home with her parents. But she's here with me, and I'm glad about it.

Blue Eyes is playing golf with Adulterer Tiger on Wii. Well thats what we call Tiger here anyway. Just saying.

I know Jesus loves me. But when He shows me so much of His love in such a short time, in such a real way with family and friends... Well, this girl can't believe how very blessed she is.

Hugs from Maine

2010-02-10T22:10:00.000-08:00

HUGS FROM MAINE

How Cute Are They !

2010-02-04T05:24:00.000-08:00

Boy these two are so photogenic. And this girl has an eye.

Hugs from Maine

Peonie Love !

2010-02-04T05:20:00.000-08:00

Hugs from Maine

2010-02-03T04:19:00.000-08:00

One of my favorite blogs, Marley & Lockyer, has a wonderful post you don't want to miss.

Ina Garten, Now This Is a Barn...

I love Ina. She makes you feel as though your in her kitchen, sitting at her 18 foot island, sipping one of her cocktails, chatting while she makes one of her delicious meals for you and her to dine on in front of her beautiful fireplace. Jump over to Marley & Lockyer.

Hugs from Maine

INSPIRATION

2010-02-01T09:43:00.000-08:00

Hugs from Maine

BIG SIGH...

2010-01-28T15:23:00.000-08:00

These are a few things I know...

When I keep my life SIMPLE, I'm a happy girl.
Saying "yes" to everything and everyone does not keep my life simple.
Saying "no" is a VERY GOOD THING!
I can stay in my pajamas all day if I need too. Blue Eyes doesn't mind.
I need to remember how much I love to dance. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE !!!
I love my blog ! It is an extension of me, and something I really enjoy.
The more I'm home, the more I love it.
Having all my peeps and their loves, in the kitchen, laughing, talking, (sometimes over each other), eating and just being home, blesses my mothers heart more then a million dollars ever could.
Going for a walk at night with Sophie, after the snow falls when the ground is fresh with white is so very peaceful.
I will continue to strive to "live in the moment" as much as possible. Because my peeps are growing up so fast, and time is precious.

(none of these pictures are my own. Although a couple really do look like me!)

Hugs from Maine

I'M TRYING TO GET MOTIVATED !

2010-01-28T10:49:00.000-08:00

Hugs from Maine

LETS MAKE A VISIT

2010-01-26T06:58:00.001-08:00

One of my favorite blogs to visit is Just A Girl

...

She is sharing tips that have made her life easier and boy, you don't want to miss this...

This girls house is organized in a doable way. (hey, is that a real word?) Click on her link, and enjoy.

Just A Girl

Hugs from Maine

SWEET BABY GIRL AND HER BF

2010-01-24T05:41:00.000-08:00

Yesterday was Justins birthday. Katie had the best time.
They have been dating for a few months now, and all is well. I'm a happy mom. She's a happy teenager. (Wait, what did I just say?!). Well, shes a happy teenager, when she's with him, and I think thats just fine. (Code for, I'll take what I can get)

He is a wonderful young man, and they are blessed to have each other. They do nothing but smile when their together. And I'm good with that!
(Justins mom took this picture yesterday. I played with it on a site Katie showed me. I'm officially addicted to it! )

HUGS FROM MAINE

WHEN YOUR PEEPS GET SICK, DO YOU JUST WANT TO CLEAN !

2010-01-23T18:39:00.000-08:00

I don't know about you, but when my peeps get sick, I just want to clean EVERYTHING in sight. And I mean EVERYTHING !!! Windows are opened, out come the disinfecting wipes, bleach, paper towels, and away I go!

One peep was sick yesterday and is fine today so I didn't get all OCD at first. But once a second peep gets it, well, my OCD hits the fan and my house never smelled so clean. I don't really have, OCD. Although my friends are reading this with raised eyebrows right now.

Anyway, I hope all loved ones are well at your house this weekend. Nothing big here. And remember, I'm the mom. I don't get sick.

Hugs from Maine

ENOUGH SAID !

2010-01-23T06:31:00.000-08:00

HUGS FROM MAINE

I'VE CHANGED MY NAME

2010-01-22T15:23:00.000-08:00

When I was a child, I never liked my middle name.

Marie.

Boring. Common. Never liked it. Now that I'm a mom, I understand so much more about my own mom who has been gone for 18 years this year. She had 7 children, and I was the youngest. Imagine how tired that poor woman was.

Anyway, I say all that to say that when I got married to the most wonderful man in the world, almost 26 years ago, I dropped my middle name, kept my maiden name, and added my married name. Following me?

Well as the first year of my blog came closer, I realized I wanted to change that name too. So I have gone from

Living My Life Outside The Box to, 9 Bartlett.

I still think and approach pretty much everything a little outside the box. I thank my mom for that. She really let me be as creative as my little self could be But now my new name just suits me better. Everyday, I am so glad and thankful to be living at 9 Bartlett. Its a wonderful, warm, house that has felt like home to me from the very first day we moved in.

So although my name has changed, my blog remains the same.
To quote a good friend of mine who has known me from 5th grade, "Your real. You connect to people. Thats what you use your blog for. "

Plus, its my blog, and I can pretty much do what I want with it. And I will.

Hugs to you from Maine

ARE YOU SURE?

2010-01-18T15:45:00.000-08:00

Really?

Hugs from Maine

IT'S BLUE EYES BIRTHDAY TOMORROW !

2010-01-15T14:18:00.001-08:00

Tomorrow is my husbands birthday... He will be 46!

Wait... Weren't we just 19 and 20 yesterday ?

I thought I would tell you the things I love about this guy on his 46th birthday.

He is the hardest working man I've ever known. Know matter what the job is, this man works like two men. Really.
He has the most incredible eyes. Bluer then blue.
He loves me as much as he did 26 years ago.
He has a wonderful sense of humor, and he often makes me laugh so hard.
He is a great dad to our 4 peeps.
I still feel so safe whenever he holds my hand.
His kiss still takes my breath away.
Being his wife is the second best decision I have ever made.
Every year we have together, I am more and more grateful to be married to him.
His kiss still takes my breath away. Oh yeah, I already said that. Worth repeating.

Happy Birthday Blue Eyes. Your still 20 in my heart !

HUGS FROM MAINE

AND GET A LOOK AT THESE !

2010-01-15T06:14:00.001-08:00

WOW !!! NOW THESE SHOES WOULD MAKE ANYONE DO A DOUBLE TAKE.

HUGS FROM MAINE

JUST BECAUSE ITS LOVELY...

2010-01-13T18:09:00.000-08:00

HUGS FROM MAINE

IT'S BEEN A YEAR ALREADY !?

2010-01-13T05:52:00.000-08:00

On Saturday, the 16th, my blog will be a year old. Yup, I've been blogging for one year. When I look back to my very first post that started it all, well I smile...

This was my very first picture I posted, and how appropriate. Sweet Baby Girl is one of the joys of my life. Still is. Always will be really.

So much has changed in a year. So much is still the same. One thing I know is ...

This blog has been soooo good for me. And I love to do it. And there is nothing wrong with that. It will continue on until I feel it is time for it to come to an end, if at all. No sooner.

BIG Hugs from Maine

SOME THINGS ARE JUST PRETTY !

2010-01-12T16:56:00.000-08:00

Sweet Baby Girl has been looking and looking at prom dresses for a couple of months now. Through the process, I found these. Your never to old to love a beautiful dress I say !

I know they are not prom but boy are they beautiful !

HUGS FROM MAINE

SOMETIMES ITS JUST THAT SIMPLE...

2010-01-12T08:49:00.000-08:00

HUGS FROM MAINE

WHAT STYLE ARE YOU !

2010-01-09T06:16:00.000-08:00

Just finished a style quiz from Sproost and to no surprise to me, I came back 100% Traditional Country.

Traditional Country
Even if your backyard isn't acres of farmland and you don't actually have a chicken coop, your house sure brings you back to a time when that was the case. You love spaces that feel casual and lived in. Furniture is practical and comfortable, and yet at the same time its very stylish. The best part of country style is how much it highlights collection and found objects. Antiques here, garage sale finds there and Aunt Milly's hand-me-downs throughout. Unique items that used to serve very practical purposes are now on display, and their history seems to permeate the home. Each space in the home seems to invite friends and family to come in and stay a while. There is a true sense of home felt throughout.

Try it yourself... It's Saturday.

Hugs from Maine

I ADORE THESE !

2010-01-08T08:29:00.000-08:00

I saw this posted on Brown Button...

I have always loved these. Always.

Hugs from Maine

A LESSON I AM STILL LEARNING...

2010-01-08T06:24:00.000-08:00

and to know it is all good...

Hugs from Maine

FRONT DOOR LOVE...

2010-01-07T16:10:00.000-08:00

Hugs from Maine

AND JUST WHY DO I LOVE THESE SHOES?

2010-01-06T09:06:00.000-08:00

THIS IS A REPOST I FOUND TONIGHT I FIRST POSTED BACK IN JANUARY... IT MADE LAUGH, AND SO I THOUGHT I WOULD SHARE IT AGAIN... PLUS, THOSE SHOES!!!

I found this picture on the web someplace and boy do these shoes speak to me.

And this is what they say...

Black is simple, beautiful, and always elegant.
I remember my mom wearing high heels when I was a young child.
I saw my mom as a beautiful woman and not just a mom when she wore them.
I feel like I'm not just a mom but a beautiful woman when I wear sexy black heals.
I need some sexy black heals.
Hey, I could look real good kickin butt, (figuratively speaking, if need be, and sometimes the need is be ), in those.
Its amazing what a simple pair of black heals can do for a woman.
I need a pair of sexy black heals. Oh yeah, already said that. Some things need repeating.
If your a woman reading this, you need a pair of sexy black heals. If your her husband, buy her some.
I'll be right over girlfriend. We're going shopping for some sexy black heals!

Yes , in case your wondering, I can still love Jesus and wear these sexy black heals !

Hugs from Maine

I SIT IN GRATEFULNESS

2010-01-03T19:30:00.000-08:00

Do you ever just live in a moment. I mean REALLY just soak it up, and not be done with it until it is actually, really, completely gone? Well I did that tonight. I think when we choose to do that, God really blesses our socks off if we let Him.

I picked up Sweet Baby Girl from Youth Group earlier tonight. She asked if we could bring home her BF, and a couple of other people. She jumped into the car and was SO happy. SO joyful.
For that brief moment, I wondered. I wondered if my mom felt this blessed when she could feel my overflowing joy at this age. If she just soaked in the moment with me. Even though being a teenager, I was oblivious to it. For those moments were rare.

Well we dropped off all our passengers and headed home. The moment had passed, but joy, contentment, and love still stayed with us in the car as I drove. Katie might have, (like her mom at that age), been oblivious to it, (she is 14 after all), but I am so grateful I was in a place to be able to recognize the moment, and choose to live in it with my daughter. I have a feeling my mom did too.
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Oh Yeah, on a side note, just so you know how "normal" we really are... I had to take her cell, and laptop from her (like right out of her hands as she was doing whatever teenagers do),so she would get to bed on time... The moment had definitely passed. Just thought I'd share.

Hugs from Maine

AND BOY DID IT SNOW !

2010-01-03T13:32:00.000-08:00

Zack drinking his Dads Coffee. Either very brave or very stupid.

Hugs from snowy Maine

THIS IS AWESOME !

2010-01-02T19:53:00.000-08:00

SOOOO LOVE THIS !!!!

HUGS FROM MAINE

IT'S COMPLICATED

2010-01-02T14:10:00.000-08:00

Haven't seen the movie yet, but...

looking at the movie trailers,

pictures of the "house" used, and friends reviews...

I think I'll like it. Plus I just love Meryl Streep !

Hugs from Maine

JUST A GLIMPSE OF MY YEAR IN PICTURES...

2009-12-30T16:04:00.000-08:00

HUGS FROM MAINE

ME, TODAY... IN PICTURES.

2009-12-29T15:49:00.000-08:00

THIS IS ME, IN PICTURES. TODAY...

HUGS FROM MAINE

TODAY I WILL...

2009-12-29T06:43:00.001-08:00

Today I will...

Walk my dog. Not Matts, just Sophie

Enjoy the beautiful snow and all the peace that God brings with it.

Wear my favorite earrings.

Put on my black turtleneck

Not fix my hair

Put on make up because it helps this 44 year old not feel so 44

Talk to God.

Listen to God

Not answer the phone just because it's ringing

Recognize where I am in my life, at this moment, and that I alone have put myself here.

Take a nap if I so want

Drink a glass of wine. In the middle of the day! (Yup, I still Love Jesus!) Imagine that !

Dream

Dream

Dream...

Breathe,

Breathe,

Breathe...

Hey, I've got to get going... I have lots to do !

Hugs from Maine

WOW, THIS IS SO AWESOME !!!

2009-12-28T06:22:00.000-08:00

So last evening as I was doing one of my favorite relaxing things, (blogging), I discovered a post from Clover Lane

How to make your pictures on your blog bigger !

I almost screamed with glee I was so happy and thankful. Wait, maybe I did.

Why was I so excited? Well she taught me (and anyone of you if you need), how to make my pictures on my blog bigger!

This is something I've always thought I would never understand, let alone be able to do. She explained it simply, and even put pictures up for someone like me who really needs the visual. YIPPPPPEEEEE!!!

I can't tell you how glad and grateful I was to discover that I too can do this. Thus enjoying my blog more because it is the way I want it.

So I took some pictures from one of my favorite subjects, (Sweet Baby Girl), and adjusted some recent pictures. They've come out beautifully, and I am thrilled with my blog.

This picture is one of my favorites.

Please click over to Clover Lane, and see for yourself.

Hugs from Maine

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, PICTURE WALLS

2009-12-27T18:07:00.001-08:00

If there is one thing in my house that I love, its pictures on the wall.

I never use to growing up... I think it's because I grew up in the 70's and 80's, and pictures on the wall consisted of ugly prints with matching sconces, and carefully placed matching shelves underneath each grouping. YUCK !!!

My idea of pictures on a wall are family pictures. Covering the wall. Telling a story of the life that family has lived together. Loving, laughing, crying, growing...

This can be a very inexpensive way to enjoy family photos.

# Trace pictures onto brown kraft paper and cut out. Label each of the papers with a description of the picture or a corresponding number.
# Using blue painter's tape (which won't pull up wall paint), tape the papers to the wall. Experiment with arrangements until you have one you like.
# Install picture-hanging hardware directly through the paper. Pull paper away and hang pictures one by one.

Found these instructions and they seem to make it much easier to put up your own family picture wall. I know my peeps have spent many moments in front of our wall(s).

I hope it brings back to their minds and hearts their childhood that I hold so close to mine. I think it does.

Hugs from Maine

JUST BECAUSE I LOVE THIS !

2009-12-26T10:29:00.000-08:00

I love cozy.

I love being cozy, dressing cozy, feeling cozy...

These rooms say COZY to me...

Yup, they do...

Hugs from cozy Maine

CHECK PLEASE !!!

2009-12-26T04:59:00.000-08:00

Now that Christmas is officially done, I want to paint every room in this place a warm, cozy color...

and layer with checks, checks, checks !!!

It's a check thing...

Hugs from Maine

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL !!!

2009-12-25T10:27:00.001-08:00

Hugs from Maine

READING IS FUNDAMENTAL

2009-12-24T00:53:00.000-08:00

When our kids were little, we read to them so much.

The Public Library was a place we went to all the time

Out of all the things I might have done wrong as a mom, this is one thing I did right

I surrounded my kids with books. Read to them daily. And enjoyed every minute of it.

“Children are made readers on the laps of their parents.”

- Emilie Buchwald

Hugs from Maine

JUST WINTER

2009-12-24T00:16:00.001-08:00

Hugs from Maine

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT...

2009-12-22T18:59:00.000-08:00

I just read a great post from a blog friend over at, Like A Warm Cup of Coffee, and thought I would share it with you.

“Isn’t it strange that there is training in almost every job situation EXCEPT motherhood! And it is the most important job a woman can ever have.” -Cherie

My Christian sisters, I have a heart plea on behalf of you, myself, and our daughters.

Especially our daughters.

Most of us have been raised with the notion that we can have it all – career, family, and independence.

I don’t think we can.

Before I get to my plea, I want to share the common threads that have been weaved into our generation…

“I was raised with the mindset that I could have a career and a family.”

“My parents never discussed my future…”

“I was raised thinking that women who stayed at home were wasting their time and their lives.”

“I kind of just fell into being a sahm.”

“My family is very big on education.”

“My mom always said we didn’t need a man.”

“My mom was a SAHM, but I don’t think I was raised with either mindset. It was more of “Do what you think is best.”

“I was raised with the mentality that I could stay home and have a family, only if I achieved a 4 year degree, first.”

“Never depend on a man to take care of you. Get your own job so you can have your own money.”

“My parents prepared me to do whatever God called me to do.”

“My mother was a stay at home southern belle who never planted any seeds for me to consider.”

“I think I was raised to do whatever my heart felt lead to do.”

“My mom worked much of the time while I was growing up. I figured I’d be a working mom, too…”

Now look at us! I would say that this post has sparked a great unmasking of what we are struggling with. While we are not with excuse, we can see that damage has been done. Now, it must be said that many things go into how and/or why were taught the way we were…wounds, confusion, misunderstandings, circumstances, sin etc., and thank God grace covers. But friends, WE have a choice to make, now, today on how we want to raise our daughters. Do we want to raise them up in confusion or with conviction and truth?

It is my plea that you and I would choose to go against the current culture and, with conviction, teach and train our daughters how to love their husbands, love their children, and be workers at home…so that the word of God will not be dishonored. Will it be a struggle? Yes, because we have to re-train ourselves, but thank God there are godly women out there to help us and walk beside us! (Sally, Robin, June are some of my favorites in the blogosphere).

I don’t know about you, but I want to give my daughters something better…something firm to stand on. I want them to be thoroughly prepared to what normally happens to women -getting married and having children. I wish so desperately that I would have been trained in these things. With this opportunity that you and I possess, this fresh start and new beginning, we can usher in a beautiful change that will impact generations. It doesn’t mean that everything will be rosy (we still have the curse to contend with), but they will be far ahead of the game.

“…so that they [older women] may encourage [or train] the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored [blasphemed or discredited].” Titus 2:3-5

I know that some of you want to be home and can’t for various reasons – my heart goes out to you and I stand with you in praying that the Lord will bring you back home. I believe He is faithful to what He calls us to.

I encourage you to visit this website often, for it will fill you with good and lovely things to think upon as you seek to build up the gigantic impact of your home.

Recommended Article:

In Over Our Heads

“Feminism is winning the ideological battle for our civilization, and Christians are among its casualties.” Phil Lancaster
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Hmmmmm... Being a stay at home mom has been the most challenging job I've ever had, and the most rewarding. I will be forever grateful for the opportunity my Heavenly Father, and my husband have given me, to be the mom I was called to be to our children. Mistakes and all. My prayer is that our 3 sons, our daughter, and their future spouses, will see the true value in being a stay at home mom. The time I've had with our children is priceless to me. I wouldn't have changed it for any amount of money, beautiful car, or house. Our children are who they are because of Gods calling on my life to be home with them, and raise them, love and nurture them, and teach them about His plan and purpose for their lives. I am one grateful mom.

Hugs from Maine

JUST IN TIME FOR CHRISTMAS !

2009-12-22T06:34:00.001-08:00

Our friend over at Urban Farmhouse posted this little twist on coffee today.

In the Jeanne d' Arc Living Christmas magazine there is the most delicious recipe for Christmas coffee. I thought I would test it out before Christmas morning to see if what something I would want to serve to guests throughout the day. Well, now I can't stop drinking it every morning! Guess it will keep me on track with the proverbial January diet! Ohhhh but every cup is oh so delicious. January is a long way away.
Christmas Coffee
2 tablespoons butter
3/4 cup brown sugar
1/2 tablespoon ground cinnamon
1/2 tablespoon ground nutmeg
1/2 tablespoon ground cloves
heavy cream
lemon peel
Whip the butter until it is fluffy and then add brown sugar and spices. Mix until well blended. Add a tablespoon of this mixture to the bottom of a mug, fill with strong, hot coffee and cream. Stir until the consistency is just right. As JDL suggests..."If you want to add a bit of spirit to the coffee, we suggest a good cognac".

Enjoy...

Hugs from Maine

SPENCER SEEING HIS BRIDE HANNAH FOR THE FIRST TIME!

2009-12-21T19:08:00.000-08:00

When I go to a wedding, I'm always amazed at the details, time, and expense that goes into such a blessed event. But the very best part for me, is the moment the bride comes around the corner, and her beloved sees her for the first time.

Heres what it looked like last night...

I hardly ever look at her coming down the aisle. It is so moving to see the expression on the grooms face as he sees his bride, the one he has dreamed of spending his life with, coming down the aisle toward him.

Like my nephew who took the video said,

There are only a few times in a Godly man's life when you will be this proud. Congratulations Spencer and Hannah!!!

Hugs from Maine

ITS A BIG DAY IN OUR CHURCH NEIGHBORHOOD!

2009-12-20T03:59:00.000-08:00

Well today is the day Spencer and Hannah are getting married. Wow, did that come fast. Last night they had their rehearsal dinner, at Cattlemens Restaurant with great food and dancing. Rumor has it, William and his Dad can hold their own on the dance floor!

Today at 4 pm, these two will become one. Gods blessings your way Mr. & Mrs. Spencer Galloway! We love you!

Hugs from Maine

HAS IT BEEN TWO MONTHS ALREADY!?

2009-12-18T16:28:00.000-08:00

Well today was a little bit of a special day. Sweet Baby Girl and her BF have been together for 2 months!

I know what your thinking...

"TWO MONTHS!? I'VE HAD A TOOTHACHE LONGER THEN THAT!"

But today, after we picked her BF up from school, in the back seat of the car, he handed her a little box. (After teasing her for just the right amount of time with it). And inside was her first real gift from someone she loves, and loves her.

A beautiful, heart necklace now hangs around her neck. She smiled from ear to ear, and thanked him over and over.

Young love is very precious and sweet.

After all...

And I'm good with it!

Hugs from Maine

JUST GIRLY!

2009-12-18T16:07:00.000-08:00

Nothing to do with the season... Everything to do with being a girl...

One thing Sweet Baby Girl and I do agree on, we love beautiful dresses !

Hugs from Maine

I LOVE COZY BEDS!

2009-12-14T18:04:00.000-08:00

I LOVE GETTING INTO A COZY BED AT NIGHT...

HUGS FROM MAINE

LOVELY TEA CUPS !

2009-12-12T04:43:00.001-08:00

I don't consider myself a big tea drinker. Tea cups, well there pretty to look at, but I'm so much more practical, and not the gentle type. I need a mug, and usually I need it filled with COFFEE!!!

But I found these adorable tea cups on a blog I frequent and thought I'd share them with you. They came from Sarah Klassen's Blog. Lovely, just lovely...

Hugs from Maine

WE DON'T ALWAYS UNDERSTAND WHAT GOD HAS PLANNED...

2009-12-12T04:23:00.001-08:00

Earlier this week, we lost a wonderful, gentle, kind man. He loved the Lord, his sweet wife, children, and friends...

Don White was always there for those who were in need. Always the first to lend a hand, give whatever he had to help, pray for those he loved.

He will be missed tremendously by all those who knew him. He has gone to be with Jesus. We celebrate his return home, and look forward to the day we can greet him again ! Knowing Don, he'll be at the gates waiting to welcome us all.

Hugs from Maine

AND SO THIS IS CHRISTMAS... WELL ALL MOST!

2009-12-05T13:42:00.001-08:00

Well the calendar says Christmas is close at hand. The weather however... And remember, we live in Maine, me, Blue Eyes and the peeps.

By now, we've had at least some snow, if not tons.

On Thursday, I decided it was time to decorate if I was going to do it at all.

And so in 70 degree temperature, I decorated for Christmas. In Maine.

Have I ever mentioned that I love the snow? One of the reasons I love living in Maine? This is what I've accomplished without snow on the ground or in the air.

This last picture is of Sweet Baby Girl. She's another "outside the box" thinker.

I'm happy with it. Wednesday is tree day.

Hugs from snowless Maine

THINGS YOU CAN DO AND STILL LOVE JESUS! NO REALLY!

2009-11-21T13:50:00.001-08:00

Today when I got back from picking up my Sweet Baby Girl from her friends house, instead of getting out of the car and going right in, we sat. We sat, doors wide open, warm sun streaming in. Just me and Sweet Baby Girl. One of those moments a mother hopes for.

We talked about a lot of things. Friends, boyfriends, church, and home schooling. We talked about going to see New Moon at least 3 more times, highlights in her hair, falling in love at 14, and what her 16th birthday party would look like. We talked about words and attitudes given to her recently, that have hurt.

And then we realized that people make lists. Lists of what someone must look like, be like, if they say they are a Christian and love Jesus.

Well Katie and I went through a few things. A list so to speak of our own.

Listens to the Eagles and other "Oldies" on a daily basis. Not just Christian music.

Goes to movies like, New Moon and Twilight. New Moon was SOOOO much better!

Drinks a glass of wine once in awhile.

Lets her 14 year old daughter date a wonderful youngman who is 17.

Takes 50 mg of Zoloft everyday.
Has been heard screaming, "I HATE YOU!!!" at her dogs as they run down the street in the other direction.
Sometimes curses when she's angry. O.K. usually curses when shes angry.
Says SH-T first, before correcting herself with, "I mean SHOOT!"

Yikes Huh... And that is just a quick list off the top of my head, of me. Me. And I still love Jesus. Yeah I really do. Have for 22 years and counting. And you know what is even better then me loving Him. Jesus loves me. List and all. Can you believe it !

Well my hour talk with Sweet Baby Girl in the warm car was awesome. We realized that as our lives change, as she grows up and I grow older, we both still love Jesus, and He still loves us. Even with the lists.

And Jesus, thank you. Thank you for loving us as we grow in our walk with you daily. Help us to not be quick to point out to others what we feel they should and shouldn't be doing with their lives. Help us to leave that up to You.

Hugs from Maine

IF WE STAND STILL JUST LONG ENOUGH...

2009-11-19T04:47:00.000-08:00

When our peeps were little, I knew that they would grow up so very fast. That if I didn't take that time to be home with them, love on and enjoy them, that time would be gone. Never to be mine again..

I am so grateful to be married to a man who knows my mothers heart and loves me deeply. I'm glad that I recognized Gods tugging. His words in my ears were telling me to stop, and enjoy this time as a mom. Really enjoy it. For it is a gift from Him. And I did.

Well, our peeps aren't little anymore. But lately, I've realized that I've stopped. I've stopped being a mom who takes each day home with them, as precious. A gift from God with time quickly going by. Time I can never get back with them. (can we say teenagers ! )

And so I will slow down some. And take a walk with my Sweet Baby Girl and her BF. Out on a bridge to enjoy my time with her. (Her suggestion ). With a grateful heart for the time I have left to be her mom. Blessed that she wants to spend it with me.

I will stop and stand in the middle of a bridge, and take in the familiar cold Maine air. I will recognize sweet first loves, and know it is good. I will use my cheap Walmart camera and take pictures. Pictures of all God is, in every form, and be grateful. I will remember to be purposeful in the day. Enjoying all the precious moments with my peeps. Knowing that it is good to stay away from the negative, controling, legalistic, and fearful. I can choose happiness, joy, freedom, and confidence, in Christ. I can choose.

I will choose to stand still long enough to be grateful... for He is good.

Oh Yeah, all of these pictures are mine ! Imagine that !
Hugs from Maine

YESTERDAY WAS THE STRANGEST DAY !

2009-11-17T05:36:00.000-08:00

Yesterday was one of the strangest days I've had in a long time. But it wasn't just me. Seems like so many around me had one too. I did get out on the Two Cent Bridge with Sweet Baby Girl and Justin.

The air was cold, the wind was blowing, and it was soooo peaceful.. Not one for bridges, I went out on Sweet Baby Girls encouragement that I would love it out there. She was right, I did.

She took our cheap Walmart camera and I ended up taking a few pictures of my own.

Last night she showed me how to alter them on this awesome site.

I got to spend time with Sweet Baby Girl on a very strange day.

It's all good.

Hugs from Maine

SIMPLE CHRISTMAS INSPIRATION !

2009-11-15T18:50:00.001-08:00

I like simple. Simple works for me. As simple as simple can be... Simple is my friend.

Yes, I'm drinking coffee this morning. Only coffee.

These photos from Country Living are reminding me to stay simple for Christmas this year.

Color is huge and can really set a mood for our homes. This blue color with heavy on the white and cream, says simple to me.

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, and everyone already starting to decorate for Christmas, I appreciate the simpleness of this beautiful home and its Christmas cheer.

Hope your simply inspired today!

Hugs from Maine

HOBBY LOBBY, COME THIS WAY!!!

2009-11-14T08:31:00.000-08:00

A blog friend over at Life at Eventually Cottage, went to Hobby Lobby for the first time recently,

This is what she had to say...

Ladies, I had my very first trip to Hobby Lobby recently! Yes, very first! Until last month, Hobby Lobby didn't exist in my area here in NY.

There is only one word that will describe my feelings for this store... LOVE!!!!

Seriously, I felt like a little kid in a candy store or on Christmas morning!!!

I had heard that it was like Michaels on steroids, but I had no idea!!!!

I don't think the smile left my face the entire time I was in there, and I don't think there is one inch of that store that I didn't visit.

This scrapbook paper is like none that I've seen before... beautiful! I've been searching for black and white toile scrapbook paper for months and found it!!!Can't wait to get started on some projects with this paper!!!!!!!!!!!!Ladies, if you have a Hobby Lobby in your area... don't walk, RUN there NOW!!!!
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If ever it comes in our area, you can bet I will!!! Hey, maybe they don't know where Maine is...

Hugs from Maine

TRACY PORTER BLOG !

2009-11-12T15:15:00.001-08:00

Today was one of those days when I felt yucky. Not sick, but almost. Sweet Baby Girl said, (hold on to your hats ),

"Mom, you do everything around here, why don't you just relax today."

No she wasn't kissing up. Well, now that I think about it... I had taken her cell phone away last night. Anyway, I decided to listen to her, and I took a 3 hour nap with my hot water bottle filled with very hot water. I woke up feeling rested, but not better. I came across one of my favorite blogs and thought I'd share it with you so you too could enjoy it. It is Tracy Porter Blog.

One of her most recent posts caught my eye. Probably because my body hurts, my head hurts, and I feel like crap! (You can say crap and still love Jesus, I checked). So not that I'm going to run out and get all that I might need to enjoy this, (I've been drinking tea by the ton today), but it looks good, and helpful. Enjoy,

Perhaps I have shared this with you once before…but in case you missed it, lost it….. or have somehow forgotten the beauty of this elixir…. I feel it is my duty to get you back on the right path! It pops into my head as my throat is killing me and my cough is non stop….and it is the evening…(I cannot lie down so I write!).. that+ that+ that= hot toddy! Horray for me…..and now you. If you are well, this is quite lovely also…say …..apres ski….or skate….or walk…..or read…..apres anything! You will take this gem in as an old family friend…and share it with all those you love no doubt! This is one to tinker about with…we all have different tastes when it comes to a strong hot drink!

Hot Toddy…Chez Porter

1 Big shot of brandy (if you want the REAL Irish version, then by all means go with Whiskey)
A hearty squeeze of fresh lemon
A nice long pour of honey

Put all that goodness into a mug and then fill it with boiling hot water. Mind you, don’t scorch your throats….but it is good hot. I do change my version of this year to year…just depends on the moment I suppose!

Cheers & Good Health to You!!

Tracy Porter

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Hugs from Maine

IF I LIVED CLOSER...

2009-11-12T05:21:00.000-08:00

WOW!!! I just found a blog that I love, love, love...

Cathleen Alyce from Vintage Home Lifestyle blog, has a sale in her barn where she lives.

Can you imagine going there. Looking, shopping, buying...

This is my kinda place !

Hugs from Maine

I LEARNED MY LESSON YESTERDAY

2009-11-12T03:34:00.000-08:00

Yup, I learned my lesson yesterday. I sure did.

Yesterday was lesson day for me. And boy was it a good one. I think it was one my mom mastered probably after her 3rd or 4th child. She had 7, me being the last. Glad she kept going.

My lesson for the day was to BACK OFF !!! Yes sirreeeee. Just BACK OFF !!!
Sounds simple and probably is. But not for me. Funny thing is, I have recently encouraged a couple of my good friends to do just that. Back off. Not from me of course, but from their own situations. You know the ones that can ultimately cause stress, sleepless nights, unnessary damaged relationships. And they have done so successfully. They are smart. Me, not so much.

In my attempt, (here is where my excuses come in so put on your boots on, its gonna get high ), to know what was going on, give direction, BLA, BLA, BLAAAAAAA... I got WAY, WAY, WAY, too involved. Yeah, me.

And so yesterday, I made myself some humble pie and ate the whole thing. I tried to stop at one piece but realized I needed it all.

And so it goes. With God in the lead, I will learn to BACK OFF!!! I will learn to mind my own business only putting my little turned up nose, ( Blue Eyes loves my nose ), in others business when necessary, allowing them to go to God themselves and figure it out with Him. I can hear my peeps now... "Yeah Right!".

I am grateful for a Heavenly Father who shows me daily who He is, and reminds me who I'm not. Its all good !

(thanks for the picture Michelle F. I this is just how I felt yesterday)

Hugs from Maine

SIDWALK PROPHETS, THE WORDS I WOULD SAY

2009-11-11T13:11:00.001-08:00

I sent this to Benjamin today... enjoy

Hugs from Maine

A HUMBLE THANK YOU

2009-11-11T06:13:00.000-08:00

With the deepest of gratitude, to all Veterans for your service, commitment, and sacrifice... for God and Country, I humbly say, from my heart and my families ... Thank You

We love you son...

Hugs from Home

IT'S SNOWING HERE IN MAINE... YUCK !

2009-11-05T09:43:00.000-08:00

It's snowing here in Maine today. Yup snow. It's the heavy, wet, melt on the ground flakes that don't amount to anything, but still we call it snow.

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, Maine snow. I was born in the middle of it, (February), grew up playing in it, (with my brothers and neighborhood kids ), and one of my favorite things to do is go for long walks while its flakes are falling beautifully from the sky.

But I have to say, I'm not ready. For the snow. Nope, not yet. You know how we all have our own little made up schedule of how and when things should happen in our lives? You know, like some of mine would be... Your first born son doesn't join the Army but goes to college instead... The discussion of thinking about a boyfriend doesn't come up until your Sweet Baby Girl is at least 16. Not to mention that she would have a boyfriend at 14!
And snow does not start to fall until after Thanksgiving. The day after is fine.

Well what I'm learning as of late is that things,life, doesn't happen according to MY plan/timing. Surprise surprise !

I've had to learn to deal with and make the very best of the first two things. God is showing me the "how" because I didn't want either one. And all is good in both.
Our first born son is doing well in the Army. He has grown much and appreciates more. Sweet Baby Girl has chosen a wonderful young man, and we are so pleased with him.
And the snow, well... It does look pretty falling on the remaining leaves with all Gods glory.
Yeah, it's all good.

Hugs from "snowy" Maine

A BLOG ANNIVERSARY AND A GIVE AWAY !

2009-11-03T04:56:00.001-08:00

I have been blessed for the past year with this young ladies blog, Blessed Femina.

This young lady loves the Lord, her family, and boy can she bake, cook, and sew. I don't know if there is a lot she doesn't do, and do well. She is celebrating her one year of blogging with a beautiful giveaway... See this apron, yeah, she made it.

And these lovely pot holders! Skip on over to her blog, (click on the link on the right hand side of my blog ), leave her a comment, and you will be entered into her giveaway.

I have been encouraged many, many, times by this sweet young ladies blog, her love for God and His word, and all things femine. In a world where that can be hard to find, I'm grateful to have found her.

Congratulations Miss Jenn !

Hugs from Maine

JUST YUMMM !

2009-11-02T15:10:00.001-08:00

(this is not my picture... but yummmmm anyhow !)

HUGS FROM MAINE

HALLOWEEN IN THE HOOD !

2009-10-31T19:57:00.001-07:00

My sister came by with her camera tonight, and off we went to take pictures of the neighborhood. This is what we found. What fun !!!

This las picture is of 17 year old before he went to a party. Blue Eyed Husband made this mask for him today. He is so clever. :)

The weather here in Maine was perfect for Trick or Treating. Missed you Florida sister and John.

Hugs from Maine

OH AND ONE MORE THING I'M LOVIN LATELY!

2009-10-31T09:15:00.000-07:00

When in Wally-world the other day with Sweet Baby Girl I spotted The Best of the Eagles, double cd package !!! She said, "who are they? " Can you believe she has NO idea who they are? It's a crime I tell you. A crime !!!

After my friend and I went out to dinner last Thursday, I mentioned to her that I had bought it that day, and had it in my pocket book. Her eyes lit up like a Christmas tree, she slamed on the brakes, and in stead of bringing me home, we spent the next half hour riding around town, Eagles blaring, singing at the top of our lungs, dancing... (well the best we could in the car)! We drove past 2 police officers and didn't even get stopped. Eagles fans ! What Fun !!!

Yeah, I'm on an Eagles kick!!! Hopefully Sweet Baby Girl will appreciate them more. I replaced them with my Lionel Richie cd, which she hated ! :)

Hugs from Maine

HAVE I ADMITTED HOW MUCH I LOVE THIS SHOW!

2009-10-28T20:58:00.000-07:00

I can't help it... I do. I love this show !!!

Jeff Lewis is so funny, even when he isn't trying to be !!! And really, the guy has such a heart... A little OCD, but then again who isn't ! Some Tuesday nights, Sweet Baby Girl will come in to say goodnight and get caught up laughing with me through the whole show.

Hugs from Maine

A LITTLE NOTE FROM EMERSON...

2009-10-27T20:36:00.001-07:00

my favorite line, "to find the best in others"

Hugs from Maine

SOME DAYS, I JUST WANT TO TURN BACK THE CLOCK...

2009-10-26T16:03:00.000-07:00

For some of you that don't do face book, don't start. It's addicting. Actually, it's not so bad. I have been on it for a few months now and really like it. One of my friends sent me a photo of Sweet Baby Girl, when she was Sweet Baby Girl. EVERY DAY.

It's not that I consider her anything but my Sweet Baby Girl. If you have read more than one post of this blog, you know quickly that I adore her. But she is a teenager. So the "sweet" part of Baby Girl is well... lets just say, not every day,

There are times when I wish we (my fam and I), could just go back in time. I miss those years of them all being home, playing together, home schooling together. Dancing around the house to silly music, reading, just being together...

I'm certainly not complaining. I am blessed that our peeps are still home a lot, (except Ben being in Germany), I just miss those days, A LOT!!!

Sweet Baby Girl is still precious to me. She always will be. I am so proud of who she is, and who she is becoming...

She is creative, artistic, kind hearted... She has a amazing insight with people and reads them with accuracy. She is reasonable and doesn't like girlie drama but would rather have fun with her friends.

Her smile lights up this moms heart!

She is my Sweet Baby Girl, and I love her!

Katelyn 3 days old.

Hugs from Maine

IT'S SUNDAY, AND I'M UP EARLY...

2009-10-25T03:42:00.000-07:00

It's Sunday and I'm up early... everyone else is asleep. I love this time of day all quiet and peaceful...

Take time this day to be quiet and peaceful... You'll be glad you did.

Hugs from Maine

White Living... Vintage Homestyle

2009-10-24T08:34:00.000-07:00

Have you ever visited a blog that you absolutely love... You can't read a word they have written because, well, it's in a different language.

Well that's what White Living... Vintage Homestyle is to me... I don't even care that I can't understand the words. Her pictures are captivating and I keep coming back for more. Now thats a blog!

I have enjoyed this blog for quite some time, and you should too!

Happy Saturday!

Hugs from Maine